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Two Points to Take Note Of…
No great change happens without conflict. Not one. And every great conflict generates resistance. Every time. So, since you know both things, decisions should be comparatively easy to make about change. Right?
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Disconnect as the New Standard
The disconnect between what people know about how the Internet (and by extension social media) “works” (choices, behaviors, options, etc.) and what people use the Internet (and social media) to accomplish (tasks) is underrated and massive. Part of the disconnect comes from a lack of interest and caring about how Read more…
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Overcoming Your Fear of Working to Connect
Fear of not connecting with another person, fear of not making an impact, fear of speaking and having no one listen, is the old resistance, dressed up in a new outfit. It’s really just another form of hiding. Attempt to connect. Fulfill your promises. Try to make an impact. Speak Read more…
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Dissatisfaction Times Vision Times First Steps Must Be Greater Than the Resistance
The equation that drives change is simple: Dissatisfaction times Vision times First Steps must be greater than the Resistance to the impact of all three combined or else change efforts falter. There are plenty of dissatisfied people in your workplace, your work group, or even just your organization. There are Read more…
Active Listening
There Are Easy Solutions to Complicated Problems
The two most difficult roadblocks to success in resolving hard problems are the presence of real trade-offs and considerations of power. Most complicated problems and difficult conflicts have simple solutions. We often confuse what we believe is a hard solution with a complicated one. What makes solutions to hard problems not Read more…
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When You Won’t Need Validation
Recognizing that you once held a belief and that now this belief is changing, is the essence of learning. And by the time you attain that essence, you won’t need the extrinsic validation from an “A” letter grade, a raise, a promotion, or any other validation that you believe extrinsically Read more…
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Core Emotional Alchemy
Do you care? This is the binary core question that we avoid asking out loud, or ask each other in unclear, murky, nonverbal ways, or just don’t ask at all. This is the right question to ask before thinking of strategies to engage in the practice of emotional alchemy. The Read more…
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[Advice] Nostalgia and Disposable Income
When a town economy runs on the fuel of nostalgia for an imagined past, and relies on a pool of people with disposable income who are willing to spend money to remember the past, the town is in trouble when either the nostalgia or income run out. This is not Read more…
Active Listening
HIT Piece 9.6.2016
Every day of the week, the month, and the year, is Labor Day when you’re in conflict. Conflict with family, friends, enemies, co-workers; the bandwidth to actually deal with each scenario and relationship in a healthy way, diminishes with each passing moment. But then, sometimes, through mixing and applying a Read more…
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[Advice] Stare Uncomfortable in the Face
The part of the conflict process that is addressed the least (and the most) is the uncomfortable part. Not the scary part, where you’re actually doing the hard work of resolving an issue with people that you may (or may not) like. Not the uncomfortable part that comes after you’ve Read more…