No one will ever know what you know, in the way that you know it, as passionately as you know it, and care about it as much as you do. So, that solution that you “know” will “work” for the office conflict that’s been going on for years? The reason Read more…
Making noise, making a point, and making a difference are different actions. Where we run into trouble is when we conflate the results of all three and then use those results (and that conflation) to determine what our story will be to the market. Telling a story to the market Read more…
There are 200 bad drawings inside every comic book artist. Just as there are an estimated 1,000 bad words/turns of phrase inside of every writer. And there are a certain number of below quality (or poor quality) teaching or training experiences inside of every teacher and trainer. There are 1,500 Read more…
Here’s an idea: When you hear an idea that doesn’t appeal to you, doesn’t interest you, or that doesn’t resonate with you, merely say (either internally to yourself or externally to the presenting party) “That’s not for me.” Then add this other part on. “And that’s ok.” Then, either move Read more…
It appears that the large conflict situations in life are the ones that matter the most. Death Divorce Job loss Personal and professional disappointments But the reality is, the small moments that appear to matter the least, are the ones that create the grit and resilience to survive the crucible Read more…
No matter how rationally argued, if what the presenter, lecturer, teacher, trainer, or interpreter is saying doesn’t resonate with you at an emotional level, you will reject it out of hand. And you’ll do it in microseconds of microseconds. Resonance in storytelling is something we know happens with impact at Read more…
Avoiding a conflict is sometimes a strategic move. We avoid conflicts for the obvious reasons that dealing with them makes us scared, threatens our sense of security, or we feel as though we don’t have the competency to address them in a way where the outcome will work for us. Read more…
Worry about things you can’t control and outcomes that are dependent upon other people responding (or reacting) is at the heart of anxiety. Our modern struggle with anxiety comes from three areas: Our desire for immediacy of outcome (or resolution); Our lack of internal resilience; Our impatience with process as Read more…
Resonance is underrated as a way of sparking change. There are two things that happen when we hear an idea that resonates with us: We admire the person who shared the message with us. We file the message away in the back of minds. Occasionally there are those people who Read more…
When it’s time to be in a hurry, slow down. Slow down your expectations, slow down your actions, slow down interactions—ruthlessly eliminate hurry from your life. When it’s time to engage, do it with courage. Do the hard work of engaging with radical, meaningful self-awareness—physician, heal thyself. When you’re afraid Read more…