Your use case of conflict doesn’t determine what outcomes others can achieve.
This is a rule that is a variation on the philosophical admonition to avoid generalizing from a specific instance (or incident) to a general conclusion about people, places, or events.
You can apply the lessons of your personal use case of conflict to scenarios that may arise in the future, but at the end of the day, that’s all just guessing.
Extrapolation to others’ personal use cases is at best advice, and at worst betrays a lack of empathy, listening skills, and a lack of the ability to grant others autonomy and agency over their own outcomes.
Your use case of conflict doesn’t determine the outcomes others can achieve.
So, listen wisely, advise slowly, ask the right questions in the right order, and keep your own counsel, more often than not.